Kvinnor mår bättre som singlar än män?

: Enligt en studie gjord av det brittiska analysföretaget Mintel 2017 mår kvinnor bättre som singlar än vad män gör. En av anledningarna tros vara att kvinnor generellt lägger ner mer tid på både hushållsarbete och att ta känslomässigt ansvar i relationen. Det innebär mer jobb för en kvinna att vara i ett förhållande än att vara singel. En amerikansk undersökning från 2020 visar att män å andra sidan får ett bättre liv i äktenskap med en kvinna än som ensamstående. De lever längre, blir lugnare och tjänar mer pengar.:

Vad tror du om detta? Jag vet ju med mig att många kvinnor i min närhet mått mycket bättre av att skilja sig och leva själva med sina barn.

Jag lever i relation med min livs kärlek. Men absolut tänker jag ibland att livet hade varit enklare och mindre krävande om man levt ensam, just pga av det emotionella arbetet som ligger i huvudsak på mig.

Men jag tänker att även många män mår väl bättre som singlar? Slippa alla krav, tjat och gnäll (även om det ofta är befogat). Samtidigt så har vi ju incelfenomenet där ensamma män utgör livsfara för kvinnor.

All the single ladies: 61% of women in the UK are happy to be single, compared to 49% of men - Mintel.com

Mintel?s Single Lifestyles UK 2017 Report reveals that 61% of single women say they are happy with their relationship status, compared to 49% of single men. Overall, it appears that unattached Brits are in no rush to find a partner. As many as 70% of singles in the UK say they have not actively tried to find a partner in the last 12 months*, rising to 75% of women.
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While many aren't actively looking for love, it seems that the single life can have its drawbacks, particularly when it comes to finances. Just 36% of singles in the UK say they feel financially secure, compared to 52% of those who are in a relationship. Moreover, 29% of singletons include paying utility bills among their top three lifestyle challenges, while 25% worry about paying the rent/mortgage.
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Mintel research also highlights that for many people being in a relationship remains a symbol of maturity. Indeed, 54% of singles say they are not where they are expected to be in life at their age, and 25% think their peers are more grown up than they are.
www.mintel.com/press-centre/social-and-lifestyle/all-the-single-ladies-61-of-women-in-the-uk-are-happy-to-be-single-compared-to-49-of-men

Women shoulder the responsibility of 'unpaid work' - Office for National Statistics

On average men do 16 hours a week of such unpaid work, which includes adult care and child care, laundry and cleaning, to the 26 hours of unpaid work done by women a week
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When looking at economic status, full-time students do the least amount of unpaid work, while mothers on maternity leave do the most.
www.ons.gov.uk/employmentandlabourmarket/peopleinwork/earningsandworkinghours/articles/womenshouldertheresponsibilityofunpaidwork/2016-11-10

Housework beat-up shortchanges men's labour - Bettina Arndt
Bettina presents research showing that despite the feminist complaints about overburdened women, men and women contribute equally to households, if you add paid plus unpaid work.
www.bettinaarndt.com.au/video/housework-beat-up-shortchanges-mens-labour/

Same-Sex Couples' Division of Labor from a Cross-National Perspective
Abstract
This study concerns how male and female same-sex couples across countries organize their paid and household labor. Using unique data compiled from multiple national surveys in 7 western countries (N = 723), we examined same-sex couples' paid and household task allocation and evaluate descriptively how this is associated with countries' gender egalitarianism. For paid labor, results indicate that female same-sex couples spend less time in total on paid employment than male same-sex couples , but both male and female same.sex couples divide their hours of paid employment equally. For household labor, we find that female couples divide their household tasks more equally than male couples. Moreover, more gender egalitarian countries appear to be correlated to increasing differences between male and female same-sex couples' total time spent on the labor market and to decreasing differences in how equal they divide their household labor. These findings suggest that larger, society-wide, gender regimes might be an important avenue for future research when studying same-sex couples paid and unpaid labor.
www.researchgate.net/publication/347990818_Same-Sex_Couples'_Division_of_Labor_from_a_Cross-National_Perspective

Om man intresserar sig för fakta är det så att män som begår självmord oftast är deprimerade/beroende/psykiskt sjuka.

Mansnormen dödar fortfarande män eftersom de inte söker hjälp för sitt mående i tid utan ska försöka klara av allt själva. Därav blir de underdiagnosticerade och underbehandlade. Det finns t.o.m. ett verktyg som man använder för att bedöma hur konformistiska män är till mansnormen, CMNI. (Conformity to mascu­line norms inventory)

"Med användning av CMNI har forskare i en metastudie av 19 453 män funnit en invers associering mellan graden av tilltro till den maskulina normen och att aktivt söka psykologisk hjälp [5]. "

"Psykologiska autopsier har visat att omkring 90 procent av dem som suiciderat hade en psykisk sjukdom vid tillfället. Här finns en stor skillnad mellan könen [6]. Depression är vanligast bland kvinnor, medan beroendesjukdomar och personlighetsstörningar dominerar bland män [7]. Män söker hellre läkare för kroppsrelaterade problem än psykosociala."

"Man fann att mäns hjälpsökande beteende var helt avhängigt vilket mottagande de fick av sjukvårdspersonalen. Det framgick tydligt att männen kände sig kränkta och tog kraftigt avstånd från ett bemötande som såg självmordshandlingen som en följd av depression och psykisk sjukdom."  

lakartidningen.se/klinik-och-vetenskap-1/kommentar/2019/10/mans-sjalvmordsnarhet-och-ovilja-att-soka-hjalp/

D.v.s. män känner sig fortfarande kränkta av att få höra att de psykiskt sjuka fast de bevisligen är det. 
Men man kan väl hoppas att detta förändras med de yngre generationerna så att de i alla fall söker hjälp.

Din första länk säger bokstavligen samma saker som artikeln i Läkartidningen: Män har sämre nätverk, tar inte stöd av andra, skäms över psykisk sjukldom och söker därför inte hjälp.

Och detta beror väl rimligen på hur de har fått lära sig att män ska vara? Inte att de faktiskt har mindre behov av stöd eller är dummare i huvet än kvinnor och därför inte fattar att något är fel när de får panikångest eller inte orkar resa sig från soffan på en vecka.

Könsprofilerna är intressanta men jag tycker den kvinnliga är jättemärklig också.
Artikeln tycker jag är lite för svepande formulerad.

Det är verkligen väldigt många olika former av fördelar/nackdelar med att tillhöra ettdera könet i alla världens länder och det är därför omöjligt att adressera allt i samma text. Man kan liksom inte börja diskutera 10% extra lön vid mammaledighet i ett land där kvinnor får syra slängt i ansiktet om de går ut utan slöja.

"WOMEN'S STUDIES CAN BE HARMFUL"

The excesses of Women's Studies affected not just faculty, but, even more so, students. And the deepest outrage of our three informants was directed at the miseducation suffered by the students they had left behind
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The students, poor things.I feel really bad for them, because they're not being given an education.
And, you know, once they're in Women's Studies, it's like the Stepford Wives! Women's Studies turns them into ideologically inflamed Stepford Wives!

I was always able to recognize them, these kids who come in, kind of zombified, who start uttering stock phrases. And you say, "Well, so-and-so certainly put her bootprint on these kids." Because it's obvious they' re terrified of a thought, because if they ever had a serious thought, they might start reflecting on this stuff they're taught to repeat. I don't want to make it that clear-cut, but the ones who identified themselves as Women's Studies students were the worst. It was just a relentless dogmatism: "We will not talk about this!" Any criticism is because you're homophobic, or you're a patriarchalist in disguise, or you're this or you're that!- whether the criticism came from me or from other students. Politics is driving out their ability to think!

You see, what "feminist process" in the classroom winds up being is a push toward conformism and toward silencing dissent. It's all done under the rubric of being nice and open, and not being an authoritarian, old-fashioned type of teacher. But this winds up being tremendously more coercive. Because with authoritarian teachers you know they're being authoritarian, and you can resist. You know who's doing what to you. But this other way is manipulation, which is far worse than straight coercion, because students are being led someplace without any clarity as to who's accountable for what and who's leading them there. And since it's all supposed to be for your own good, you see, there's this terrible paternalism, or should we call it maternalism? "It's all for your own good." And I think that's far inore dangerous than a more old-fashioned, straight-forward authoritarianism, because it's harder to resist that kind of maternalism than it is the other, and to be clear about what's going on.

Daphne Patai - Professing Feminism

Twelve Scholars Respond to the APA's Guidance for Treating Men and Boys - Quillette
John Paul Wright is a professor of criminal justice at the University of Cincinnati. He has published widely on the causes and correlates of human violence. His current work examines how ideology affects scholarship

Thirteen years in the making, the American Psychological Association (APA) released the newly drafted "Guidelines for Psychological Practice for Boys and Men." Backed by 40 years of science, the APA claims, the guidelines boldly pronounce that "traditional masculinity" is the cause and consequence of men's mental health concerns. Masculine stoicism, the APA tells us, prevents men from seeking treatment when in need, while beliefs rooted in "masculine ideology" perpetuate men's worst behaviors-including sexual harassment and rape. Masculine ideology, itself a byproduct of the "patriarchy," benefits men and simultaneously victimizes them, the guidelines explain. Thus, the APA committee advises therapists that men need to become allies to feminism. "Change men," an author of the report stated, "and we can change the world."
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Criticism was immediate and fierce. Few outside of a handful of departments within the academy had ever heard of ?masculine ideology,?
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Instead of passing quietly into the night, as most academic pronouncements do, the APA?s guidelines did what few such documents have ever done: They engendered a social media maelstrom, and likely not only lost professional credibility, but potentially created new barriers for men who need help.
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In today's hyper-politicized environment, good intentions are often converted into the currency of ill-will. Yet the APA was forewarned by at least one psychologist that the guidelines would not be well received; that the document's overtly partisan language and politically progressive narratives would not encourage men to receive services, but to keep them away.
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Unfortunately, instead of calming the storm by acknowledging the validity of at least some criticism, the APA doubled-down, releasing a public statement asserting that the APA supports men, and the guidelines had been misunderstood and mischaracterized. In the same statement, they explained, "When a man believes that he must be successful no matter who is harmed or his masculinity is expressed by being sexually abusive, disrespectful, and harmful to others, that man is conforming to the negative aspects associated with traditional masculinity." In other words, according to the APA, these selfish, violent, and abusive behaviors are not an issue of a person's character, nor are they related to a person's individual pathology. They are about "masculinity"-especially "traditional masculinity." For added authority, the statement was signed by three presidents of the APA.

quillette.com/2019/02/04/psychologists-respond-to-the-apas-guidance-for-treating-men-and-boys/

Meta-analyses of the relationship between conformity to masculine norms and mental health-related outcomes. - PsycNET

Abstract

Despite theoretical postulations that individuals' conformity to masculine norms is differentially related to mental health-related outcomes depending on a variety of contexts, there has not been any systematic synthesis of the empirical research on this topic. Therefore, the authors of this study conducted meta-analyses of the relationships between conformity to masculine norms (as measured by the Conformity to Masculine Norms Inventory-94 and other versions of this scale) and mental health-related outcomes using 78 samples and 19,453 participants. Conformity to masculine norms was modestly and unfavorably associated with mental health as well as moderately and unfavorably related to psychological help seeking. The authors also identified several moderation effects. Conformity to masculine norms was more strongly correlated with negative social functioning than with psychological indicators of negative mental health. Conformity to the specific masculine norms of self-reliance, power over women, and playboy were unfavorably, robustly, and consistently related to mental health-related outcomes, whereas conformity to the masculine norm of primacy of work was not significantly related to any mental health-related outcome. These findings highlight the need for researchers to disaggregate the generic construct of conformity to masculine norms and to focus instead on specific dimensions of masculine norms and their differential associations with other outcomes. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2017 APA, all rights reserved)

psycnet.apa.org/record/2016-56584-001

Further information on this topic

Read the full article which is part 5 in a five part series on bias against boys and men in psychological research. It goes into much greater detail. Or have a look at a short video on this topic.
malepsychology.org.uk/tag/division-51/

Du blir inte intressant att diskutera med när du gör dig dum. Du vet utmärkt väl att man påverkas till viss grad av alla man har runt sig som liten, som ung, och även som vuxen.

Och jag vet faktiskt inte hur blind olch oreflekterande man måste vara för att inte under sin uppväxt ha märkt att pojkar och flickor inte behandlas lika. Inte när de skrattar, inte när de gråter, inte när de presterar och inte när de fallerar. 

Det enda som är säkert är att det kommer att ge samhället stora problem framöver att det är som det är i skolan, t.ex.