Opinions about my 16 year old

She is 15. 

I was raised that moral and legal are two separate issues´, but I am torn because it seems as though sweden raises very well rounded adults

My son is sexually active with his girlfriend, he has talked to me about it.  Although I accept it, I don't want to promote it.  It's like saying, well if you are ´going to drink anyway, you might as well do ir here.  Although our kids will always do things that the parents are not comfortable with,  I feel they still need guidelines to follow

I grew up in a very strikt christian home and had sex for the first time at 19.  I married the second person I had sex with just before I turned 20.  I have been happily married for 21 years.  But I know that is not the average case.  That is why I am asking opinions.  Torn between the christian morals I was tought or sexual freedom.  I want to be open minded

Thank you all for the opinions.  I actually told my son I would write "a forum" to really see if I was the Only one who believes it's not ok.  We have talked openly about this issué.  I don't believe in sheltering a child as I was and I know they need to have their own experiences.  That is how they grow and learn.  I actually have 3 teenagers.  He is not the oldest, but the first to be in a relationship.  I do have to respont to orolig2121-I was a social worker in the US and have seen many young teenagers lives destroyed by voluntary sex.  Hundreds actually.  Ninety percent of the kids I worked with were teenage pårents, and thirty percent of those teenage parents were living in homeless shelters.  So yes, lives can be "greatly altered" by voluntary sex.

Thank you Browneyedgirl.  Everything you said is what I needed to hear.  It's tough as a mom to let go.  I will continue talking to him.

I am deeply sórry for anyone that has the opinion that pregnancy=abortion.  And then what...no problem?  The thought that any parent would believes that their child would not feel eternal emotion over having an abortion must be greatly distanced from reality.  The moment a woman finds out she is pregnant, she feels that there is life.  It is an immediate connection to the unborn, no matter if the pregnáncy was planned or unplanned. As a parent, could you imagine your life without your child now!  No!!